Simple and Easy are Not the Same

One of the first things Elvio said about the United States was "I love it here. Life is so easy!"

In Paraguay if you don't have something you make it from scratch or just go without. Here it's just a short drive to the store where you can find 25 varieties of the thing you want. If that's not simple enough for you, you can buy everything you could possibly want on the internet and have it shipped straight to your doorstep.

To have a car in Paraguay is a status symbol. I knew two families in my community with a car. Elvio was noticing how every house we passed had at least one car in the driveway and many time two or three.

The last few weeks we spent out at Elvio's parent's house we passed much of the day around the wood-burning stove drinking mate, cooking meals together and just spending time together. At night we would all cuddle under blankets in one bed and watch a movie on TV.

A friend of the family was telling us yesterday how much he would love to live that slower pace of life but how it's nearly impossible to do so in our society. When I translated that for Elvio he laughed and told me that most Paraguayans want to come to the US because we have it so easy. Creature comforts, jobs, money in the bank account (yes, I realize that it not true for everyone but from the perspective of someone from a developing country, everyone here is rich).

I do love the creature comforts and I have been stuffing my face at every meal and taking abnormally long hot showers. But we still take the time to slow it down each day. We drink our mate and terere and spend time together. We don't have jobs right now but I sincerely hope that once school and work start in August we'll be able to hold on to some of the simple life.

Entry into the US

We've only been home for 4 days and I already have so much to write about. I'll just keep this first post focused on our trip home, which trust me, will be quite enough for one post.

Last Tuesday we left Elvio's family's house for the last time. We had to leave earlier than expected because we heard there were going to be strikes all along the highways. Goodbyes were short and sweet. We got lucky and made it through 2 road blocks but got stopped for an hour and a half at a third. When we finally made it to Asuncion we went to the US Embassy and picked up Elvio's passport with his visa.

Our flight left Asuncion at 1:09am on Thursday morning. It was Elvio's first time on a plane and he did really well. Landing in Panama at 6:30am we had a couple of hours to wander around and enjoy all the American-like amenities. I taught Elvio how to use a drinking fountain and we devoured a Subway sandwich.

From Panama we went to the Bahamas and got quite the surprise. We had to go through immigration there rather than in Dallas as we had expected. Leaving the Bahamas, everyone was extremely nice and we got through quickly. But in order to enter the US, Elvio had to go through Secondary Inspection since he was an immigrant entering for the first time. We had the bad luck of getting a Customs officer that had no clue what she was doing and we missed our flight to Dallas. Fortunately the American Airlines staff were on their game. They sent us to Miami and then on to Dallas. Miraculously we were able to catch our same flight from Dallas to KC and arrived at 11:15pm.

My parents, grandparents, aunt and uncle were all at the airport to welcome us. It was awesome.

I have so much more to write but it's hard when there's so much to experience in the real world! So I'll leave you for now. Elvio and I are doing great and so happy to be home!

The Story Continues

And we're back! Different name, same great taste...or whatever.

I've decided to keep my blog going as Elvio and I return to the United States. I haven't been home in 27 months and he has never experienced anything remotely close to life in the US so I'm sure we'll have lots of amusing stories to share.

We arrive in Kansas City a week from today and then the journey continues. We can't wait!

Semana Santa and the Importance of Goals 2 and 3

Holy Week in Paraguay, and most of Latin America, is the most important holiday of the year. School and businesses are closed Wednesday-Sunday and it is a time to spend with family and friends. Each day Elvio and I went out to his house and were met by a mob of various family members that I had trouble keeping track of. On Wednesday we baked chipa to eat on Good Friday in place on meat. On Thursday we had a huge feast of chicken, pig, cow and goose in preparation for fasting on Friday. Sunday, of course, was more feasting.

Most of the talk centered around mine and Elvio's upcoming travel to the US. We were talking about the plane ride and the topic of security came up. I told them about how after 9/11 security measures increased and you can't take things like pocketknives or nail clipper on the plane with you, you have to put it in checked baggage. Someone then said, "Why would anyone want to attack the US? Americans are good people."

This isn't the first time someone has shared this sentiment. I'm not sure why Paraguayans love Americans and the US so much but I think Peace Corps can take some credit for it. As volunteers we have 3 main goals:
1. Helping the people of interested countries in meeting their need for trained men and women.
2. To help promote a better understanding of the American people on the part of the peoples served.
3. To help promote a better understanding of other peoples on the part of Americans.

The first goal encompasses all the work I did as a Health Volunteer. Lessons in the school, building brick ovens, cooking healthy recipes with neighbors, exercise groups, etc. The other two goals are everything else I do while I'm here. Sharing about my life in the US and about our culture. Participating in events here are sharing them with people back home. These two goals are extremely important. There aren't a lot of countries in the world that have such fond feelings towards Americans and many Americans are pretty naive when it comes to other cultures but Peace Corps does its part to change that.

On that note I hope you've enjoyed reading my blog over the past 2 years. Two weeks from today I will be going to Asuncion for my swearing-out ceremony and I will complete my service as a Peace Corps Volunteer. I can't believe how fast the time has gone by. Thank you, friends and family, for all your support and love. I couldn't have made it through this journey without you all. You have no idea how much the random letter, Facebook message or phone call means to someone who is thousands of miles from home. I love you all and will see you soon!

An Immigration Story

My dad once told me that I usually do things the hard way. I chose to play the harp when there were numerous instruments that didn't require a station wagon or minivan to transport. I decided to join the Peace Corps rather than getting a job domestically or going to Grad School like normal people. I fell in love with and married a man who requires a green card to enter my country because, well, that's just how it happened.

Thus began our immigration journey. What? You mean that when a foreigner marries an American they don't automatically get US Citizenship? Nope. But they automatically get a green card, right? Wrong again. The only thing marrying an American does is give the foreigner the right to be petitioned for by the American for a green card. And it's a LONG process.

Step 1:

I sent a petition to US Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) on January 6, 2012. It included our marriage certificate and other proof of our relationship (photos, sworn affidavits from friends, etc) and a fee. After turning in the petition I heard about a wonderful website called visajourney.com. There, people from all over the world going through the immigration process can share there stories and get helpful information. I read that this step could take between 5 and 7 months and immediately started freaking out and thinking I would have to stay in Paraguay until October or November. Luckily, since I am living abroad with my husband, my petition was automatically expedited and was approved in only 10 days! Que suerte!

Step 2:

The petition was then forwarded to the National Visa Center in New Hampshire. In this step the beneficiary (Elvio) actually "applies" for the visa. I also sent in an "Affidavit of Support" stating that if for some reason Elvio receives financial support from the state or federal government, I will be responsible for paying it back. Yikes. Both of these parts have a fee attached to them too. After the fees are paid and the documents are received, the National Visa Center completes the case. Our case was completed on February 12.

Step 3:

Next is an interview at the Consulate in the beneficiary's country. We just received our interview letter yesterday and the interview is scheduled for May 1. Before going to the interview Elvio has to have a medical checkup and receive all the vaccinations required to enter the US. At the interview they will ask him (and maybe me) questions about our relationship to make sure that it is real and that he is not just using me for a green card (unfortunately it does happen sometimes). After he passes the interview, he will return a few days later to pick up his passport with the visa in it!

Step 4:

Port-of-Entry. This is whatever point that Elvio enters the US for the first time. In our case, it'll be Dallas on May 10! Here they go over all of Elvio's documents for the last time and stamp his passport with a temporary green card until his actual one arrives in the mail. Then, finally, we go home :).

But wait, there's more!

Because we have been married for fewer than 2 years, Elvio gets a Conditional 2-Year Green Card. At the end of 2 years we have to send in yet another petition to remove the conditions at which point they send his 10-Year Green Card.

Whew. Got all that? It's a long, tedious, expensive process and most people going through it are separated from their spouses for most of it. Elvio and I have been so blessed to be together the entire time and to complete the entire process in about 4 months, when it normally takes 8-10. We've also been blessed to have extremely supportive families who have helped us so much along the way. I could easily go on a several page long rant about the hundreds of thousands of people that are separated from their families or spouses while Immigration takes their sweet time adjudicating cases, but that is a rant for another blog. The system sucks but that's the way it is. What matters now is we are almost done!

Meet the In-Laws

I realize I haven't talked much about my in-laws, which is a big mistake because they are awesome. I'll just stick to immediate family in this post because I'm still learning all the intricacies of his extended family.

Elvio's parents, Julia and Francisco. They have 5 children. They are both very quiet but two of the most hard-working people I have ever met. The only time I ever see Julia sit down to rest is very late at night. She also always knows exactly what remedy to give me when I am sick, which happened a lot the first few times I visited them. Francisco is one of my favorite people in Paraguay. I can never really tell if he's sober or not but that's kind of how it is with all Paraguayan men who spend all day in the field. His family said they didn't even know he spoke Spanish until I came along but every time I come over he starts speaking in Spanish, even if he's not speaking directly to me, something no other Paraguayan does. I told him he shouldn't feel obligated to do that because I could have learned Guarani but he said he just wants to make sure I feel like part of the family.

Elvio has an older brother named Nestor who is 30. I can't find a picture of him right now. He lives with his common law wife, Miguela, and their 4-year-old son (I don't actually know his name) in a town about half an hour from here. I only recently found out that Nestor and Miguela aren't actually married but that's very common in rural Paraguay. Weddings are expensive and there's really no advantage to it. And many times kids come first so couples just move in together and start calling each other husband and wife and forget that they never actually made it official.

Elvio's younger brother and best friend, Jorge. He is 25. For some reason almost all the photos I have of Jorge are of him cutting meat with a saw. Weird. Anyway, he is extremely quiet and every his relatives make fun of him for it. But he is really nice. And, he is getting married in April to his girlfriend of 3 years!

This is Elvio's sister, Leticia (Lety). She is 17 years old. Since the day Elvio and I started dating she has called me her sister-in-law. I'm really proud of her. She is extremely hard-working both at school and at home. She has goals in life; she wants to graduate from high school and go on to college, something not a lot of girls her age think about. She is going to graduate in December and then she plans on going to Argentina to study Biochemistry :). She also really wants to visit the US.

This is Elvio's youngest brother Rodrigo (Rody).  He is 9 years old. He is really smart for his age and extremely curious. Whenever he comes over he immediately finds something new and asks what it is and how you use it. You can tell that he really looks up to his older brothers. He couldn't wait to show Elvio his first pair of cowboy boots that he just got. He helps out at home where ever he can and promised to take care of the cow that Elvio gave me when we got to the US.

So that's the family! I am so thankful for all of them. They have welcomed me into their home and their family since day one. When my parents came to visit they embraced them too even though they didn't share a common language. And they have supported Elvio and I in every step of our journey. I am very blessed to have them in my life.

Out of the blahhhh

I've been a real grump lately and rather than depress everyone with my "debbie downer" attitude I decided to take a small break from blog writing. But I'm back to normal now (it help that I've had heaps of good news lately), or as normal as a person can be in Peace Corps, and ready for some updates.

As I mentioned, lack of work is driving me nuts. This was an unexpected side effect of getting married. When I've gone to visit people, they've actually said to me, "why aren't you at home taking care of your house and your husband?" Well I don't think my house will explode in the hour that I'm gone and my husband is a grown man and doesn't need me to babysit him. I thought I would be this great example of a hard-working super wife/volunteer but that's not what my community wants. It's frustrating but since it's summer and I only have 3 months left I'm trying to be tranquilo and embrace it.

In case you don't stalk me on Facebook, the good news that I was referring to was that I got accepted to Emory University, my top choice grad school for the Master's program in Global Epidemiology. Also, Elvio's visa petition got approved in record time. We still have several more things to do and he'll have to have an interview, which will hopefully be scheduled in April or May but the process is going a lot quicker than I expected, which makes me happy.

I went to my Close of Service conference last week. It was the first time I had seen some of my fellow G-32 volunteers in almost 2 years, which was weird. At first it was awkward for me being in such a large group of Americans (yeah, 41 Americans together is a large group for me) but it was nice to see everyone and talk about readjusting to left in the US. I realized to need to be a lot better about taking pictures to document these last 3 months.

Speaking of pictures:

Our house!

G-32 at our Close of Service Conference, aka best group of volunteers ever :)

Our dog, Modelo. Elvio gave her a haircut so she doesn't look so much like a gremlin anymore.

Rainbow! This made me happy :)